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Why You Are Told Not To Wash Your Belt In Martial Arts

        When you start training in martial arts you most likely will either be told not to wash your new belt that you got with your new uniform when you sign up or you have read instructions on something somewhere that told you not to wash your belt. There are reasons why you should not wash your belt, but they have nothing to do with fantasy stories.

The main fantasy story you hear is that ancient old masters of martial arts (yet the belt system was introduced only in the 1880’s) never washed their belt and did not have new belts given to them. They wore a white belt and through years of hard training with sweat, dirt, blood etc. it became black. That means the black belt is a symbol of that hard work. This sounds good and all but it is not true. No martial arts masters ever did anything like that, and if they did it would be gross.

It is a nice story and philosophy though. Working hard and your pure effort is what makes you the master. The concept is interesting but still, why not just more than one belt if it is pure hard work that matters? Like you could not buy a black belt, you had to earn it by sweating on a white belt and rolling on the dojo floor, fighting people in challenge matches, getting their blood and your own blood on it. To me that sounds very gross and unhygienic. Would you want to practice with someone with a belt full of nasty bacteria on? Judo, Jiujitsu, Karate, Taekwondo, Hapkido, whatever. Do you want to be grabbing on, or even close to another guy who has such a belt around his waist? It would be very gross and probably smell.

Some dork made up this story to sound very mystical and it is just a silly martial arts myth to attract students and sound profound. I was told this in my first Taekwondo gym and believed it. But growing up I realized this could not be true. Why would you wash only your uniform, but not your belt? Japanese, and most Asians, are very clean people who want to make things nice and hygienic. There is no way that they would think having a nasty belt is important or good. They had to have washed their white belts with their uniforms. When people trained in martial arts in the old days, even ancient days, nobody wore special colored belts. They wore whatever training clothes were used at the time. They obviously washed everything when it needed to be one. When Jigoro Kano who invented Judo and the martial arts belt system idea started out he only had white belts and later added the black belt. Over time he added color belts. People washed their belts. They wouldn’t want that filthy piece of cloth in their dojo rolling around. People always hung dry clothing because they had no dryer machines. They most likely did not wash dark black belts with white gis either. And color belts students probably washed their belts in a separate bucket or basin as to not mix colors into the white clothing. Most likely they did not have to wash their belts as often as their uniforms as the cloth is smaller, and a thicker piece that absorbs well and dries off. But still there had to be times they needed to wash it.

Now days we use washing machines and dryer machines. These things can cause shrinkage of cloth. One reason you do not want to wash your belt is because it will shrink. If it fits you well you do not want it to shrink. But if you wash it once in awhile and air dry it, it should not shrink. So only washing when necessary is important. Not every day.

Another problem is color fades. Some of the dyes for color belts are very strong and can spread in the wash into other garments. I remember the green and red belts in Taekwondo had very strong dye that would even stain the waist of my white dobok through my sweat. I could only imagine what would happen if they went into the washing machine with white shirts. Not good. I never washed my color belts. Also, in Taekwondo color belts are only worn for about 3-4 months if you are regularly training and testing for the next keup ranks. So the amount of times you would need to wash them are slim to none.

In is my opinion that martial arts uniforms should look clean and good. It is part of the discipline. If you are a color belt you want people to see the color easily. Why fade out your green belt? It looks ugly. Why fade out a yellow belt? You worked hard to earn that color so why make it white again so fast? It just does not look good to have an old faded color belt. In the military they make sure that your uniform is worn correctly, and up to standard and clean. They want it to look good. I think the martial arts uniform should also look good including the belt.

In other martial arts styles like Brazilian Jiu Jitsu you hold your belt colors for much longer and have more ground and intense sweating moment between 2 bodies. Very close contact and grabbing and jerking the belts during sparring. You probably have a white belt for about 2-3 years and same with the blue belt etc. It is much slower to rank in this martial art. Once in awhile in that amount of time your belt is going to get caked in salt and dojo mat filth that you will need to wash it. Throwing it in the washing machine is a good thing. If your belt is blue or purple just put it in with like colors, or by itself. Air dry it. But usually you do not want to wash your belt for reasons mentioned above. Another reason is the tape on your belt for stripes in BJJ. Most tape stays on in the washing machine, but over time will peel off easy and need to be replaced. During my time in BJJ I washed my white belt several times, especially during the hot summer in Korea when I was training there. The tape stayed on.

In Taekwondo washing your black belt fades it and makes it a lighter color. A lot of people think having and old black belt that is used up is somehow super cool and important. Somehow it “proves” you trained hard and are a master. As if your physical prowess does not prove it enough, they need some fashionable belt that looks gray, peeling off the surface, sides all tethered, tags missing and rubbed off, and almost white in color. They believe it has some symbol of working hard to turn your white belt black, then somehow, for some reason, not based on science, the belt then turns white again through more sweating, blood, dirty from training. This is impossible and also stupid. Why would you want that to happen? Do you really think that if you rubbed a white cloth in dirt for 20 years and other nasty stuff it would turn black then turn white? No…it won’t. How anyone came up with this is probably because they wore cheap black belts with a white layer underneath the black part. Through peeling, ripping, and washing and faded their belt the dyes washed out and underneath the layers became exposed. So they thought “Oh this must be some oriental philosophy of reincarnation and rebirth! So philosophical and so deep!!!” Probably some western dork made this up, or some Asian trying to take advantage of stupid foreigners gullibility for all things eastern and mystical. Emotional man!

There is no way this guy could have gotten belts to look this ratty and torn up from the few amount of years in between each belt without him purposefully ripping on them and washing them over and over. He is claiming that within 6 years or his black belts got this old looking! Impossible unless he buys the absolute most cheapest and poor quality belts on the market! If you earn a black belt or master rank wouldn’t you want your belt to last and be the highest quality? People have 1 belt the ends up this way but he has 6! Yeah right…

Like I said before, I think the martial arts uniform should look clean, pristine, bright in color with belts looking good. Of course tying a belt over and over may cause parts of it to tether but there is no reason the belt should look like it was found in a garbage bin. Some nominal fading will occur if you wash your belt once in awhile. I have probably washed my black belt 4 times in my life. Once because an older belt was cheap and thin and sweat caked up on it and it was gross. The latest belt I have I washed it a couple of times because it got very sweaty. So far it is still very black. Other people want to wash their belt over and over on purpose in hopes it faded and makes them look super badass like they trained for millions of years. I think this is silly and dishonest and makes you look like a tool. Especially if you are young. I remember seeing that blogger and youtube guy Karate by Jesse have almost a pure white belt on with a couple of black marks. What is that kid in his 20s? SO STUPID! No way it happened through training!

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       This belt was about $35 listed online. Mooto has some cool looking Taekwondo uniforms but this kind of stuff really angers me. I wear Mooto all the time, but I think they should stop making pre-worn out and made to look old belts

        What is even worse is some companies sell faded black belts to look like grandmaster belts. I like my Mooto black belt, but this company actually sells an $85 belt made to look old that some suckers will buy to feel important. I hate this kind of stuff! How lame it is for people to buy a belt to look old. How fake! How pretentious! How idiotic and morally wrong!

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The $89.50 belt.

        Just wear the belt of your rank! If it is black then make sure it is black! If you need a new belt then get one! What are you doing to your belt, and what cheap lame quality of belts are you wasting money on, to make your belt look sooooo old and used up and nasty? You want an old belt that hardy keeps your dobok or gi closed because it is so tethered the knot never stays tight? What is the point? You don’t look cool! You look dumb! What is the point if other people can kick your ass if you have an old belt on? Make sure your skill is good!

Over the years exploring other martial arts beyond Taekwondo I have found myself just wearing athletic clothes and training poomsae outside and wearing MMA clothes often to work on kickboxing. I still wear my dobok with pride, but what I am saying is many years I have not even worn a belt. The sweat and wear and tear will no be shown on my belt since I was not wearing it sometimes. But does it mean my skill is not there? The wear and tear on my body is what matters to me. Not a piece of cloth.

In this documentary an Okinawan Karate master tells a foreigner traveling to train under him to take off his belt and not care. The master himself is only wearing shorts and a tshirt. He is giving the foreign students a lesson in humility and destroying your ego.

This master does not wear an old worn out belt. He does not even wear a belt anymore!

Wash your belt to the absolute minimum, but make sure you wash it. Do not wash it over and over either. Only as needed and to make your uniform look good. If your black belt fades some it’s ok. If it does tether some and have rips after 20 years so be it. There is nothing wrong with that. I have seen grandmasters with older looking belts that are obviously worn. But they look nothing like some of the ridiculous things I have seen on the internet. Wearing the belt your master gave you when you reached your rank is a sentimental thing. But it is also okay to buy a new belt too. In my opinion a belt is great to wear. It is earned, it is sentimental, it is honorable, it is motivating, it identifies your mastery, and is an overall positive thing. But there are times you don’t need to prove anything with a belt either. But when you wear a belt why not wash it if you need to? Just make sure with like colors as not to stain other clothes. Make your uniform clean and nice! Over the years you most likely will have a slightly faded belt with some tears here and there and that is okay, but should not be your goal! your goal should be your physical skills and strong character from a life of martial arts training! You will be in your 60’s before your belt gets that tethered!!!

 

The Most Comfortable Rash Guard I Have Ever Worn 

        Rash guards are basically surfing shirts used by surfers to protect from getting rashes from their boards. It is made out of spandex type material and usually thicker than regular spandex. These are like half suits for the torso. The Brazilian Jiu Jitsu martial artists in the 90’s made these things very popular for martial artists who want to do full contact fighting. The early days of the UFC allowed all kinds of uniforms to be worn in the cage and a lot of practitioners were grapplers. They stopped wearing the traditional Jiujitsu gi because the opponent could grab it and pull on it. So they started the whole “o-gi” Jiu Jitsu style or also sporting competition. This translated well for MMA and kickboxers who train in the gym because it is very functional clothing. You do not have loose clothing like a wet t-shirt, or gi or dobok that soaks up sweat. The rash guard material repels it and wicks it away from your body. They are also hygienic and protect your skin from a lot of skin diseases and bacteria that can be transferred with skin to skin contact and also from the sweat on the mat you may roll in.

With that being said, I am still a traditional martial artist and love to wear my dobok for Taekwondo, but I think that the Taekwondo practitioner needs to also practice in other kinds of clothes and do kickboxing and MMA training. So donning MMA shorts/kickboxing shorts and a rash guard is something you should do every week once or twice at least. I have trained with rash guards for many years doing my intense striking work and conditioning work. I also love to wear one when I roll and do grappling sometimes. I prefer the bJJ gi when I do my Brazilian Jiu Jitsu training but I also believe to be an efficient and street ready fighter you need to train in both the gi and without the gi. So the rash guard is the best choice for attire when not rolling in the gi.

I have a few rash guards, but I will tell you the absolute best rash guard I have ever worn is the Elite Sports Star Rash Guard. Elite Sports is a maker of a lot of martial arts gear with an emphasis on MMA, but they also make Taekwondo uniforms too. The Elite Sports Star Short Sleeve Compression Rash Guard is extremely comfortable and feels great.

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The material is thicker spandex and slides well on the mat. The stitching is very strong. What I like about this rash guard compared to others is that the shirt fits my wider frame and does not feel tight in my armpits like other brands do. My shoulders and armpits are not restricted and I can freely move. I am a bigger guy around 220lbs and I wear an XL size. Another important thing about this shirt is that it does not at all choke my in anyway. Almost every rash guard I have worn in the past has given me a slight uncomfortable feeling on the front of my throat. The tight spandex usually gives slight discomfort but nothing that keeps me from working out, breathing, and giving it my all. This Elite Sports Star rash guard has a small v-neck shape that does not choke me at all!!! It feels amazing! I was so surprised.
Probably one of the coolest features of this rash guard is that the waist has a band that keeps the shirt conformed to my waist. It is form fitting and stays down. When I roll with other rash guards they usually would slide up and expose my belly. It was annoying as I want to be modest when I train as well as be hygenic and not have parts of my torso rubbing the mat or someone else’s skin. This rash guard by Elite Sports stays around my waist and does not hike up! I love it!!! It has this cool band sort of like a rubber band keeping it down. Nothing about this rash guard is too tight either. It just overall feels comfortable.

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The design of this rash guard is also really cool. This is a ranked rash guard and white symbolizes by BJJ white belt status. I am almost to blue and when I get blue belt I will get a blue rash guard like this as well. So I feel great and also look great with a very fashionable design!

So as a Taekwondo fighter I will practice my punches and kicks and also do my Jiujitsu in this as well. It also is a great overall active shirt for general fitness. Jogging, weights, jump rope, push ups and everything else. I recommend this rash guard. You can get it on Amazon for $24.99. The price is very nice!!!! Other rash guards cost 50 or more dollars! So Elite Sports is making high quality gear for a low price the average martial arts man can afford!

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A Great Gi For Jiujitsu! Elite Sports Navy Blue BJJ Gi

        I have been studying Jiujitsu for a long time off and on. I have spent time with grappling clubs as well as actual MMA/BJJ gyms. Last major training I did was in Korea where  I competed in 2 big tournaments. It was an exciting time. So back in USA years later I am trying to hone my BJJ skills and get the blue belt I deserve! With that said I want to tell you about a new gi I recieved recently. The Elite Sports Traditional BJJ Gi. I got the navy blue color and I am size A3.

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When I first opened the gi I could tell the exceptional quality. Before I had used an old basic Judo gi, then I got a BJJ gi in Korea. My first BJJ was a basic gi like this one but the quality of the fabric was not as good and when I washed it (without drying it in a dryer and only hang drying since in Korea that is how we dried clothes) it still shrank! So I had a gi that shrank and had sort arms. I was not allowed to compete in the gi as it went against IBJJF regulations. So when I did compete I had to borrow a gi from a very large Korean man who had a lot of money who could afford to buy those trendy Shoyroll gis. The gi’s he lent me did fit me for both tournaments and felt great but knowing how much money it costs to buy such a brand was ridiculous to me. Now come 2018 and I finally get my hands on a new fresh gi for practice in the USA! I open up the Elite Sports package in the mail and instantly I can feel the fabric was just as good as the expensive brand. The feeling against my skin in training is great! The arms actually fit me and the legs too! Right to my wrists! Each Elite Sports gi is IBJJF approved and ready for both competition and training in the gym.

I got this gi sweaty and it did not drag me down. So it works great with sweat and does not cling too your body and ruin your performance after hours training. I washed it and hang dried it. Each gi is pre shrunk to fit you. I am 5’11 and 225lbs and I got a size A3. It fit me great! I have a larger chest and the extra room feels good. If you are even bigger or larger such as a body builder I suggest a size up from me. If you are a regular dude this gi will offer you enough room as it is.

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This gi is a great choice for a first gi as well because the price is right!!! I swear so many gis are overpriced in the market. 80-200 dollars for a gi? Why? Elite Sports sells this gi for $59.99! Perfect price and awesome value! I definitely recommend choosing this brand.

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When I roll in this gi I do not even know it is there. I am busy focusing on techniques and getting awesome at grappling instead of adjusting my gi around. Even the white belt that came with it, yes it came with a white belt at no extra cost, is sturdy and strong unlike other gi white belts I owned. I like the belt so much I put 2 stripes on it instead of my old white belt that already had 2 stripes I earned from my teacher in Korea.

I feel like I can roll around on the mat doing shrimp drills like I am on ice! I slide fast and smooth! I think this gi is incredibly comfortable. I would wear it all day!

I really like the draw string for the pants. The chord is stretchy somewhat and feels soft. It is long enough to simply tie it and the bow I tie the knot is does not press against my stomach or bother me in anyway. I can easy tug the chord in the back of y pants to tighten them to me comfort level and then tie a knot in front and I am ready to go! Pants stay on secure!

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Rolling feels so comfortable!

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This gi also looks great and is fashionable. It does not look boring as the logos are placed in great spots and are not too big. You can still patch it up and personalize your gi if you are into that. At least for a gym logo. So it still looks classy. I really like the navy blue color as well, it brings out my eyes and just looks fresh. It is not the simple blue, but has his nice darkness that looks formal. Now they do make this same gi in various colors such as white, black, regular blue, and gray. I suggest going to their website to check them all out.

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Popular Machado BJJ Black Belt Gives Respect To Taekwondo

        I thought this was pretty interesting. Jean Machado who runs TheMachLife YouTube channel that makes many comedy videos about BJJ, the martial arts, and other topics did one on Taekwondo. I thought it was going to be a video making fun of Taekwondo, but instead I was delighted to find out he instead was showing how amazing Taekwondo is and how it deserves respect. That is very encouraging to me and it is great more BJJ guys are becoming open minded about martial arts. I guess he was really a brown belt when he made this video, but he is now a black belt. Watch the video:

Earning My 1st Stripe In BJJ in Korea

        I received my 1st stripe in Brazilian Jiu Jitsu in Korea. Apparently the name plate on the wall already had 1 stripe added to it in the gym. But I never got it physically put  my belt. But my instructor finally put it on and so I am official now. YAY! I feel good earning my very first rank in BJJ.

So now I am  Checkmat 1st stripe white belt in Brazilian Jiu Jitsu. SO COOL! I feel like I have capable ground fighting techniques and am able to defend myself in a real life situation. Grappling knowledge has really helped me out in my martial arts journey. I have a great instructor at Fight Gallery in Bucheon who teaches very cool stuff.

Taekwondo Applications Fight Scene And Update On My Martial Arts Pursuits

        So I have been in Korea for 6 months. A lot of stuff has gone down, some negative stuff I can’t talk about that has to do with work, but other than that I have been training in Taekwondo and Jiu Jitsu frequently. I had stopped training in MMA classes because I have been to tired and did not have my head on straight because of stress so I do not want to spar and have something bad happen. I have stuck with BJJ diligently and even earned my 1st stripe on my white belt at Fight Gallery MMA. Unfortunately, my instructor forgot to put it on my belt, but he put it on my name plate on the door that I am 1st stripe. In my opinion you do not ask for a rank or care, you get it when you do. A physical stripe on my belt does not make me a better fighter. So I don’t care, but I am 1 stripe white belt rank now. I have a desire to try some more tournaments in the future. My teacher is really good and taught me some really cool stuff. But, for now I need to take a break because I ended up moving. Also, BJJ in the gi is murder on your fingers. It ruins them. It tears them up and breaks them up. It is bad for your hands in the long run. I feel that taking breaks will heal my fingers and keep their normal functioning lasting in the long run in my life. My goal is to stay healthy while learn a lot, and I sure have learned plenty in  ground fighting! I feel very competent for grappling in self defense situations with my Brazilian Jiu Jitsu and Taekwondo skills, not to mention what I learned from Muay Thai and MMA classes.

        I have been trying my hardest to perfect my poomsae and have high quality Taekwondo skills. Master Jeong has helped me so much in Taekwondo to perfect my poomsae better. He is not only a great teacher, but also a great friend and someone who is there to help me in life when I need it most. He has gone out of his way to help me so much while I am in Korea that if it were not for him I would not have survived easily and been able to move and do things in Korea. In 1 week, this Saturday, I will test for 4th dan black belt. I know I will pass easily and cannot wait to finally have an official 4th degree black belt in Taekwondo by the Kukkiwon. It is so cool that I get to test in Korea as well! How many foreigners can claim they have tested in Korea with Koreans? I will definitely make a report on that after Saturday! I will tell you all how it works in Korea and what they require. It honestly is not very much!

        After I get my 4th dan I have to wait about 3 months in July to take the Foreign Instructor Certification Course in Muju at the Taekwondowon. That will make me a recognized Taekwondo master worldwide. This is the reason I wanted to live in Korea and work, to have these experiences. To get my martial arts credentials going strong. Then I can open my own dojang and teach Taekwondo for actual fighting and self defense.

        Meanwhile Master Jeong had me fight him for a short video to showcase some basic applications for Taekwondo poomsae in a mock fight. We filmed a fight scene and I play a bad Taekwondo gangster. Check out the fight scene and enjoy it! We had a lot of fun and it is supposed to be funny as well as show some maneuvers of poomsae applications. I hope you enjoy it! We will make many more episodes. I have only been 2 of the videos so far. Episode 1 I was not in, but I was in the last part of Episode 2 and then Episode 3. Check them all out! We will be making episode 4 soon!

 

*UPDATE* Episode 4 was made May 17th. 19 days after this article was originally published. Watch it below!!!!

I Am Now Training MMA And BJJ In Korea, Kyeoktuki

        Recently a new gym opened up in my neighborhood here in Bucheon, Korea. It is literally about 500 feet away from the outside of my building. There is no reason not to check it out, so I did. I ended up feeling the place out and I signed up. The instructor was cool and all the students were very nice. It is a place that lacks the big stink of ego that seemed to plague every American MMA gym. Koreans have a more respectful attitude in their culture when involved in activities or within an institution. Places such as jobs, schools, your church, your group of friends, or your martial arts gym are full of a lot of respect and calmness. This is not to say that every part of Korea is respectful, because any other international resident living here will tell you that Korea has some of the biggest aholes in the world and people who exude some of the most backward, irrational behavior in all of Asia. Nevertheless, this does not take away the fact that Korea generally has a more respectful and honorable attitude than other places. Especially within the martial arts. It feels as a little of the Taekwondo spirit is left inside MMA here. The Korean Mudo spirit. You can feel it even if there is no Taekwondo in these gyms, unless someone trained in it before; but it is not taught.

        So I felt safe here and had a positive experience. I have trained for a week. I go 2 nights a week for about 5 hour worth of training. It is very good training and even includes 5 rounds of circuit training for body conditioning. I tell you, I am so sore.

        Studying Brazilian Jiu Jitsu is my main goal. To learn fundamentals, obtain a strong ground fighting structure for self defense, and hopefully earn my blue belt at least. The other things I learn at this gym is Muay Thai and MMA, which combined it all together. I am learning some wrestling stuff with the Muay Thai that is going to help me be a better fighter. It has been some very fun training.

        The training is safe so far, no one is hitting full contact and our classes are working strictly for the purpose of getting techniques down. The Korean students, even the big boys, those few giants of Korea you see, are some of the nicest guys and fun to spar with. I even noticed that there is 1 girl training to who is a white belt beginner. It is a safe place.

Here is the link to the gym. It is called Fight Gallery.

What is interesting is that this gym is called “Kyuktooki Garrarri,” if you sound out the Hangul when reading it. So it says, “Fight Gallery.” MMA and Kickboxing here is often referred to either as K1 (As in K-1, the Japanese Kickboxing promotion) by the average Korean, or Kyeoktuki. There was a DVD released a decade ago by Turtle Press called Kyuktooki: Korean Kickboxing and I bought it a few years ago. Many westerners wanted to understand what it meant and if Kyuktooki is a real Korean style of martial arts. Finally, I know the real answer. Kyuktooki, or Kyeoktuki, is not actually a martial arts style, but more of a kind of martial art, or type of martial arts. It basically speaks of free fighting. What Kyeoktuki actually means when literally translated into English is “hit fighting.” Or “striking fighting.” It basically is the term for real Kickboxing as well as used to describe MMA (even though MMA has grappling too). Kyeoktuki is a style of martial arts much the same as MMA is a style of martial arts. However, there are organizations in Korea that claim they teach Kyeoktuki and they have made it their ow style with their own black belt ranks. So there are certain organizational styles of Kyeoktuki, but overally it is not actually a special ancient Korean kicboxing style. Much like the Turtle Press DVD actually says, Kyeoktuki is a mixed style of free fighting that can include anything from Taekwondo, Karate, Muay Thai, Judo, Wrestling etc. All of the rage from Thailand about how Korea is “stealing” their martial art or lying about something are nonsense. Korea is not stealing or claiming to have created anyting. Many Kyeoktuki fighters are Muay Thai stylists. Most are actually. There are also a ton of Taekwondo Kyeoktuki fighters. Kyeoktuki is a general term for a more serious fighting sport, that does not include Olympic Taekwondo since it has such limiting rules and tons of padding.

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Starting over as a white belt is good for any martial artist to learn humility. This is me in my new gi (dobok) and with my new instructor.

        So now I can actually say, “Hey I am training Kyeoktuki in Korea” which is kind of cool, even if it is just MMA. Now when I describe my Taekwondo training and studies in Korea to people here I can just say, “I train in Taekwondo for Kyeoktuki and want to teach Taekwondo for Kyeoktuki and not the Olympics. The average Korean instantly understands what I mean. They are also fascinated to know their native martial art is actually a self defense system when I explain to them that my “boxing” is actually just Taekwondo. They are confused when I throw straight jabs and rights from up above and not from the hip. The average Korean has seriously lost all sense of what Taekwondo started out as because of the Olympics and stupid cornball, Taekwondo dancers everywhere. Also, they see poomsae a lot, but really do not understand the point. Along with the term Kyeoktuki, I mentioned Mudo which is the Korean transliteration of the Japanese term of Budo which is the way of the warrior. Taekwondo is Mudo, and it is Kyeoktuki when taken out of the Olympics context.

        Now about my training in Brazilian Jiu Jitsu, it is humbling to start over at a new gym as a white belt. Oh, yes I have done this before in Judo, Boxing, and MMA in America, but yes I am doing it again and it is only going to benefit my martial arts spirit. My goal right now is to gain competent ground skills for real self defense and be able to hold my own if I get taken down in a fight. The other goal I have is to earn my blue belt. After that I will see if I will one day earn a purple belt. Who knows. My instructor is a professional MMA fighter and he is a cool guy. He is a 4 stripe purple belt and he is very calm and kind. He also has a decade of Wrestling/Judo/Muay Thai/Boxing training. He speaks English (Thank God) and he has a warm heart for foreigners. Fight Gallery is a great place for non-Koreans who speak English and it is a welcoming environment. I will give more details of my training in future posts. Stick around and check back from time to time.

        So now I am doing Taekwondo and Brazilian Jiu Jitsu with Muay Thai and MMA on the side. I hope this helps me be a true martial arts master. When I earn my Taekwondo 4th dan this year at the Kukkiwon I want to know that I deserve to be a teacher of the fighting arts.

There Are Other Reasons To Train In Martial Arts Besides Competitive Fighting

        There are all kinds of reasons to train in martial arts besides competitive fighting. In the old days of Karate nobody was concerned with sport fighting or winning points. The Okinawans and Japanese only cared about fighting in general and staying alive. Likewise, in Taekwondo’s infancy nobody was thinking about how they can create a popular sport, but how to promote a Korean way of fighting more perfect than Karate itself.

Besides fighting in general and self defense martial arts in my opinion are the ultimate fitness and health activities anyone can do. It is better than dancing, better than gymnastics, and better than just lifting weights alone. Martial arts combine everything into one. Movement of the joints in various ways, moving the body in every possible way it can move, and development of serious cardio and blood circulation. Martial arts also offer healing by strengthening the body and systems of the body. Many martial artists, including myself age pretty well. We look younger and are more fit than average people. We can last longer and have a better quality of life. On top of this is of course our self defense skills that will keep us alive longer if we are attacked. Martial arts are ultimate self preservation.

Martial arts help mental health by inducing stress relief, intense focus of the mind with forms and meditation, coordination skills, and give enjoyment and pleasure to practitioners. It keeps people busy who otherwise might be bored if they did not know a martial art style. Traditional martial arts also offer great ways for solo training such as forms that can be performed anywhere which also sharpen the mind and develop masterful techniques.

Of course with anything, martial arts also provides a way for a competitive spirit. Competition is a way to test skills and see how someone holds up with another human being. Combat sports are always there for people to participate in but are not the main goal. There are ways to compete inside the dojo with friends without entering huge tournaments or serious combat sports such as full contact kickboxing and MMA. But even so some people want to participate in MMA and see how they do. That is fine, but it should not be the sole purpose of a life long martial artist. There is so more more you can do and the toll that MMA and full contact fighting events takes on the body can be a negative force in your personal martial arts journey. There is a time to retire and a time to understand to take training slow because of injuries. Over the years your body will wear down immensely and basic martial arts skills will suffer. The nature of MMA is hurting another and avoiding being hurt. It is impossible to not get hurt yourself as every fight you will get hit. Over time it can cause brain damage and serious joint injuries and arthritis. I believe it is possible to regress physically and regress as a martial artist with too much combat participation.

Frank Mir, ex-UFC heavy weight champion mentions very profound things about MMA:

Almost everybody at the UFC level can fight through an injury. We’re all hurt by the time the fight comes. I’m starting camps off with the injuries that I haven’t properly addressed and that’s affecting the way I train, movements we’re using and what we can do on a certain day. I’ve got Forrest Griffin making jokes about it like, ‘It’s time to retire when I train like Mir.’ I’m like, ‘what are you saying?’ He’s like, ‘Well you walk in the gym, what doesn’t hurt?’ So I was like, ‘well, you’re right.’ So I was like, let me take time off, address these issues and train healthy – relatively speaking for what we do in our sport – then I’ll keep fighting. But it’s to the point where I’m only 35-years-old and you know, the quality of life. I’d like to play a pickup game of baseball with my kids…So that’s kind of the decisions and why I did what I did.”

Frank Mir understands that having a high quality of life is important, not just for himself, but for his family. It is a fact that someone who trains hard in a martial art style who does not have injuries or brain damage can train harder and better than someone who has such injuries.

If someone only participated in a minimal level of combat sports, or none at all except dojang training, he possibly will have better technique, better health, better cardio, better power and proper body mechanics than an old retired MMA fighter with 50+ fights. In self defense who will do better at this point? Obviously combat experience is important to factor in, but with enough combat training in a dojang or dojo a person can still master a martial art and effectively win a street fight. He can also train in martial arts longer during his life and benefit his martial arts style and community longer than someone who has too many injuries.

Being a life long martial artist also has the duty of promoting that martial art, teaching it to new students, developing new techniques and keeping the art alive. I often find it strange many MMA fighters who retire have nothing much to do with teaching martial arts or starting a martial arts gym business afterward. Some simply just do other things and walk away. Even professional boxes. I don’t see Mike Tyson running a gym or promoting his boxing to new generations. Maybe he does in a way that I do not know, but he is basically in movies, doing 1 man Broadway shows, developing an animated TV show, writing books etc. But he is not being a boxing instructor. The professional fight scene seems to exist for personal glory more than enjoying a martial arts community and making training and practice a life long journey. There is no end to training and practice for a Taekwondoin. We will go until we are 100 years old until we die. We should be teaching and passing on concepts and martial arts to new and younger people.

Benson Henderson said it best after his fight with Nick Diaz in 2012 when he claimed there is more to life than fighting. He said,

Fighting’s cool. I love this guys, thank you guys for all of the support. Seattle, I love you, but fighting is just a small part. There’s a lot more to life, guys. There’s a lot more to life. Hug on your loved ones, cherish them. These moments we have together, they’re a lot shorter than you think.

Simply just to fight in a sport, I believe, is not the sole reason to train in martial arts. Living life and enjoying other things is important too and martial arts themselves, even without competition, help a person achieve a higher quality of life than if one was not training in them. There is much benefit also for people who train without fighting.

There is a current and ignorant trend that says the only reason to train in any martial art is if you compete. If you do not compete you are somehow a deficient martial artist and doing something that is pointless. Also, you are not a real fighter. This is bogus. Anyone who trains in a combat art with the intention of fully embracing it’s self defense aspects while enjoying its other benefits is literally a fighter in their being. The attitude of a fighter is not only displayed in combat sports or street fighting. Does a soldier in the military only become a soldier when fighting in a war? What about during times of peace? Are they not real soldiers unless they become combat veterans? That would be absurd. Of course they are still soldiers. Someone who trains to be a soldier is a soldier whether or not they ever fight in a war their entire life. A martial artist is likewise a fighter whether or not they literally fight people in combat or self defense or not. The fact is they are seriously training.

There are many good reasons to train in martial arts besides competitive fighting and they are just as valid as one who has a quest for MMA glory. I plan to teach Taekwondo and practice it for the rest of my life. I also plan to train in other styles as well until I can no longer do it. I plan to always be involved in the martial arts world through teaching, promoting, and training. Too many injuries from too much heavy sparring is detrimental to a martial arts lifestyle, but it is necessary to train with sparring to truly encompass the full range of martial arts perfection. It all depends on your attitude. There is nothing wrong with MMA, but trendy MMA hipster culture is full of ignorant people who have never learned what being a true martial artist is. A few intelligent fighters do understand this as well as MMA students, but the popular trendy culture surrounding it needs to be ignored while true martial artists become masters and perfect technique into old age and never quit.

 

How Not To Become A Murder Victim

        There are a lot of evil people in the world. There are many criminals who murder. It could be someone mugging you, a gang member, someone who just gets mad and goes on a rampage, a sociopath who takes his mental state up a notch to murder, or a serial killer who just loves to kill. Of course there are also rapists who don’t happen to murder their victims, but often times rapists also murder their victims. Most people who are normal do not want to become murder victims. Maybe there are a few weirdos out there who want to die like that because they are insane or sick, but yes, people generally do not want to become a murder victim. There are a few easy and common sense steps to take in order not to be murdered. I have studied and heard about many cases of murders and I notice that most victims make similar mistakes and totally lack common sense. To avoid being killed by a maniac is a logical process. It is pretty easy to avoid in most cases. All though there are times when someone who is actually doing everything right can be killed. But it is very rare compared to the other victims. Usually children who are weaker or the mentally disabled can be easily killed. Even so, if you are a typical person you can avoid it. In this article I will try to cover all of the bases I can think of for how to NOT become a murder victim. Typical humans can avoid being murdered by following these easy steps.

1. Always be aware of your environment. This is to say BE AWARE OF YOUR SURROUNDINGS! This is not that hard. Maybe it takes a little mental effort because you might not be able to day dream, but this is a good thing! Daydreaming can get you killed! When going into places you are not familiar with (or a public place such as a street, road, parking lot, hallway, building, forest, or getting into your car and not paying attention to what was around you before you opened your door to load it etc.) observe everything! How many people in the Walmart parking lot are out there? How is the lighting? Are there tall trucks or cars parked next to your car where someone could hide and not be seen? Who is behind you? An old lady taking her cart out, or some weird gang banger in a hoodie (oh I said hoodie! oh no call Al Sharpton!) hiding his face walking near you? Maybe a weird guy with a crazy beard? Maybe a normal dad looking man with a football hat on. ANYONE of these people could be a serial killer. Looks can be deceiving, but often times taking things at face value is smart. Generally, do not judge a book by its cover. But then, still, take in observations.

The way people dress or look communicates something. Like it or not dressing in clothes that look like gang banger attire often times actually communicates that that person literally is a gang banger, or at least a thug who is a criminal. Sometimes it is not a thug or a criminal but someone who WOULD LIKE to be one; such as a gangster wannabe. Still, even if someone is not actually in a gang or is not yet a criminal, a person with that attitude is dangerous. You cannot read people’s minds so if you feel they could be a threat it is best to listen to your gut instinct. The whole tough guy persona often times is a person about to boil over or one who will succumb to scratch an itch of desire for being a real thug. Someone who wants to become a gangster tends to easily become one. Sometimes fake gang members are more unpredictable and dangerous than real and true gang members. They have more to prove.
Also, a criminal always has to commit their first crime sometime, or a serial killer their first murder. Don’t let it be you. If you personally feel uncomfortable about how someone looks in the way they dress, or their facial expressions, or the way they walk, trust your gut feeling and keep an eye out to avoid them. If a guy in dark sunglasses and a hat and a puffed up collar on his coat seems suspicious to you then try and avoid him. Political correctness can and will get you killed. Offending someone who wears a hoodie is better than allowing that person who wears a hoodie to kill you. 
Now back to not judging a book by its cover, do not assume the nice dad looking guy is safe if he asks you what time it is and steps close to you. He may be about to grab you and pull you into his truck. Always remain a safe distance when talking to strangers. A safe distance is a distance that makes it impossible for someone to physically grab you without first traveling toward you a few steps. Make sure it is about 4 steps, enough time for you to run and escape. It is not that hard to walk 1 step and grab someone fast. This is common sense. It should also be taken into account that decent men who use common sense understand it is a bit shady to walk up to a young woman who is alone. Most people who are decent know this and if they do need to ask a question do so at a nonthreatening distance and do not try to communicate a threat. They will then say thanks and go about their business. Even a nice, smiling guy who walks close and appears not to be threatening has no business getting too close to someone. This could be a ploy to make you let your guard down.

2. Do not be alone. Most often a murder victim is killed when they are alone. Usually you will not be singled out or attacked if you have people with you. Think about your situation and where you are at. Should you walk across a parking lot alone at night? Should you walk down a gravel road off the highway a few miles away with only woods around you? Should you drive into a run down seedy neighborhood alone? As a young woman, should you travel alone and stay at a seedy hotel where crack dealers are outside such as a strange downtown location? Think about these types of situations and use common sense. Logic says you should make observations and if something seems unsafe or just a little odd do not go there. If you have friends bring them with you. Don’t be naive! Why walk across a large parking lot with low light alone? Ask the owner of a business or a security guard or a friend to walk with you. Most often women can be kidnapped in such locations or killed on the spot because they are physically weaker than men.

Seedy hotels are not smart to stay at

It is dark and no one else is around. Men are stronger and more intimidating for a potential murderer. It is safer for a typical male to walk to a vehicle in such a location than a typical female. This is not to say that a man cannot also be killed. It depends on the weapon, a gun or knife? Maybe a club to the head from behind? Friends will lessen the chances of a serial killer or mugger to single you out for a target. Ask your male friend to walk to your car with you, or get your car and pull it around for you. 
Most murderers want to kill their victims easily without much barriers in the way. Of course there may be some who enjoy a little fight before killing you (very rare but it happens) they generally want to easily dominate you. Bringing 5 friends will keep you safe. Even 1 friend with you makes it harder for both of you to become victims. For women, bringing male friends with you can scare away threats.
Both men and women should not hitchhike or pick up hitchhikers. You don’t know that hitchhiker, he or she could be a killer. If you are walking and think about hitchhiking, don’t! You do not know the driver of the vehicle and they could also be a killer. There have been several freeway killers who murder hitchhikers, or are hitchhikers who kill occupants of vehicles. Don’t take your chances!


Picking up hitchhikers can be dangerous.

Do not go into the apartment of a stranger you just met, do not sit in the car with someone you do not know who offers you a seat (even if it is cold outside, just go back into the establishment you were just at). Do not walk off onto the beach at night with someone you do not know (ladies even if he is cute don’t do it! Offer to sit inside where people are around to talk), do not go into the hotel room of a person you just met either. These kinds of things are just common sense, but unfortunately people do not seem to get it. 
Obviously there are times when you HAVE to be alone. And a healthy life is one that allows solitary time as well. We cannot nor do we want to always be around people. Make sure your alone time is spent in a safe place. A park with people, or your own home with a locked door. It must be a familiar place you know everything about and can take proper security precautions. Locked windows and doors, a place where you know the neighbors etc. If for some reason you have to stay in a hotel alone just make sure your door is locked and you look around the hallways when going to an elevator. Please, do not stay at seedy or strange hotels known for murders or drugs. It is not the smartest thing for young women to travel long distances alone, they do it at their own risk. Many times lone females become murder victims when traveling. Stay at places with good reviews with many employees around etc. Do not be vulnerable.

3. Do not hang around with people who are involved in illegal (or unlawful) activity such as drugs, or gangs. Stay away. Being involved or friends with people who are in gangs or involved in selling drugs, or buying drugs puts you in the realm of other people besides your friend who also do illegal things which gives you a higher chance of one of these criminals to end up killing you. Many people who break the law on regular occasions might break the law by murdering you. Your friends who are around such people can bring “who knows what” into your life. If you have a boyfriend who brings over other drug users, or criminals to buy drugs, many strangers can walk into your residence on regular visits. It is smarter to not live in a situation where regular criminals/law breakers/people who do illegal things and strangers are regularly walking into your place of living. Also, do not have a friend who regularly brings you around such people: visits to houses, motels, and other places you might be around them. It would be smart not to put it past people involved in criminal gangs, or other activities, to also decide to murder people someday as well. Not just rapists or serial killers but drug deals gone bad, a revenge killing on your friend where you happen to be a witness and now they have to kill you too, or other dire circumstances. Avoid negative people in your life. You could end up in a house targeted for a drive by shooting or a house massacre and you happened to be hanging out that night. Do not go to parties known to have wild people who do drugs or act like thugs. Often times fights and shootings occur and you might be a victim.


Drug users also abuse their bodies and minds with all of the harmful chemicals they ingest from drug abuse. Drugs that altar the mind are dangerous and cause people to hallucinate. Not every “trip” is safe or fun for the person. Often times people have “bad trips” that make them go crazy and out of control. Sometimes they become extremely paranoid and believe crazy delusions and end up murdering people. Sometimes they are completely out of their minds on drugs while they commit violent acts. The drug PCP gives users extreme physical strength and a feel of ultimate power which often times makes them go berserk and no feelings of pain. Fighting someone on PCP is harder than if they were not on PCP.

Various serial killers have been avid drug users. People like Karla Faye Tucker and her boyfriend Danny Garrett who were serious drug users and involved in sexual deviancy. You do not want to party with such people nor have them as your friends.

4. Do not be friends with or date, or marry a sociopath or someone who has violent tendencies or forms of sexual perversion. For women, if you are dating a man and he randomly does something very strange or odd that feels threatening or very angry you should break up with him and do not take them back.
An example: Your friend meets your new boyfriend who’s name is Dave and gets his name wrong when shaking his hand. She calls him Dan instead. Then your boyfriend Dave, holds her hand tightly and pulls her towards him slightly and his facial expression changes to anger, and he sternly says, “My name is DAVE! Get it right! And don’t you ever forget it!” Your friend becomes alarmed and you are somewhat embarrassed and worried. That is a sign he is probably dangerous. Trust your instinct.         Such behavior is unacceptable and bizarre and shows he has rage inside and violent tendencies. Break up with him right away and never return his calls. Last thing you want to be in is a relationship with a violent person. They may go crazy and kill you.

Example of a classic, violent sociopath from the movie Mad Max:

Such people use violence and intimidation to dominate and control others.

Use your keen observation skills to weed out sociopaths. Never be stupid and assume you are dating a dream guy within 3 weeks of knowing them. Real relationships with trust take time. A sociopath is someone who has zero remorse, guilt, empathy, and other normal traits. They have no conscience and have no belief in right or wrong. They lack morals completely. They will lie, cheat, steel, and other things to win. It is always about their benefit and control. They will do anything to win and stay free to do anything they want. They are usually narcissistic and cannot admit wrong even if they are confronted with total evidence that proves they did something wrong. If you notice this behavior, or your friends question him and bring it up to you, listen to them, and break up with the guy as soon as possible. Women can be sociopaths too so men should do the same thing. Watch how he or she acts and look for signs. Best way is to catch them off guard. Do they manipulate others? Have they treated people rude who did not deserve it? Do their stories seem far fetched? Do they lie constantly? Do not give into pity and try to change them or love them and “win them over” to the good side. Completely reject them and get them out of your life.
        You do not want stalkers to follow you your entire life and threaten your safety. They could harm you or your friends. At the first sign of strange behavior leave them and ignore them forever. If you have to call the police and get a restraining order and make sure that if they violate it they get arrested. Never return calls to a stalker or any emails. Do not return any messages even if it is to say “Shut up! Stop harassing me!” Even that is enough to excite them because you are giving them attention. If they harass you to come hang out with them or have a coffee refuse it and ignore them. Normal men who are rejected will accept it and move on in life. Others will keep hounding you until you agree one day to have coffee in their apartment where they stab you to death because you want to leave 5 minutes early. These kinds of people are control freaks and possessors who cannot handle rejection and will murder you for revenge for their ego being hurt and loss of domination over you. Some will use pity to get you to feel sorry for them like they are just a sad socially awkward guy who has no friends and you are their only friend and without you they will die. Maybe they have no friends for a reason. Also, use logical reasoning and common sense to understand the difference between normal lonely people and dangerous sociopaths.

Last thing you want is to wake up in a room like this in some guy’s basement in an unknown location with no chance of escape.

Sexual perversion is another issue. Many sociopaths become sexually perverse because they have no moral convictions since right and wrong do not register or matter to them. Also, people who are not typically sociopaths can also become sexually perverted by certain circumstances. Most people who are sex addicted will satisfy their lusts through non-dangerous means such as pornography, or willing sex partners. But often times the lust of certain people becomes perverted and depraved. Often pornography sets people on a course of more intense highs and more extreme desires. Normal sexual behavior is now boring and they need an extreme thrill and they develop a sick fetish. These fetishes or thrill seeking can lead to depraved sex acts even leading to rape and murdering. Many serial killers are sexual sadists who sexually torture and kill victims. If you know people who are addicted to pornography, especially if it extreme or beyond normal sexual acts, you should avoid them and do not let them near your family. Keep them at a distance. Yes, if you work with people who are into porn or depraved sex do not allow them into your personal life beyond work. If someone is constantly obsessed with sex and bizarre sexuality you should avoid them. The best bet is for people to avoid others who frequently watch porn, visit strip clubs, solicit prostitutes, or have sex with anyone. Avoid one night stands, why risk it? You do not know them, they could be leading you to a torture chamber where you cannot escape. You cannot trust anyone who you just met. Especially someone who met you for the sole purpose of having sex. They simply are using you, as you are them, for sexual pleasure. It is very dangerous. Do not become a person who sleeps around with random people, or do not become a prostitute. Many victims of serial killers are prostitutes, or people who generally love to party and go clubbing or bar hopping. People with low inhibitions. Make sure that if you do decide to go clubbing or bar hopping, you understand that there is a risk of strange people approaching you who are patrons of such establishments, and bring friends. Do not go home with random guys or invite them over. 
Also, do not frequent sex shops or be anywhere near them, or any kind of sex club. These are magnets for the sexually depraved psychopaths who you might meet. Or at least friends of potential crazies they might introduce you to later. Swingers clubs and the like have been known to be places serial killers hang out in. Eventually their abnormal sex acts are not enough and they must fall deeper into depravity and might end up making you their murder victim. This goes for both homosexual and heterosexuals. Yes, the homosexual scene has much dark deviancy as many famous serial killers were male homosexuals (Jeffrey Dahmer, Daniel Conahan, Dean Corll, William George Bonin etc.), but of course heterosexual, sexual sadists often make females their victims. Also, some females have also become serial killers but it is not as often as males. So men also need to not assume they are safe to participate in such clubs and activities. Men need to understand there are also females like Jodi Arias who are a living example of a sexually deviant, female killer. It is just safer and smarter to not engage in sexual deviancy and to behave in a normal sexual way where time is taken, relationships are developed etc. Just make sure it is with the right person.

Serial killer cult member Manuela Ruda: “I signed my soul to Satan.”

5. Do not be friends with people involved in the Occult or Satan worship, and do not be involved in it yourself. Whatever your beliefs are about supernatural things, whether you believe people can become demon possessed or gain magic powers through sorcery, or you believe it is a mental delusion in crazy people who take things too serious does not matter. The fact is often times people involved in the occult or Satan worship, or various self styled Satanists or witches etc. are dangerous people and untrustworthy. Of course not all people involved in witchcraft religions, Satanic organizations, or claim to practice magic are murderers. Some are harmless people with alternative views on life. I just personally do not want to be around such people or be friends with them. I would keep them at a distance simply because they have conflicting moral standards. Satanists, whether it be literal worship of a being named Satan or a theatrical Church of Satan member who uses it for shock value, have opposite moral values compared to traditional religions. Selfishness and lying are not considered evil in such beliefs. I personally do not want people who have alternative morality around me. Such people can be negative to your life.
Despite what atheist Satanists would claim, there are other types of occult practitioners and self styled Satanists who actually believe in demonic spirits and possession as well as magic spells. These people, whether you want to believe are literally demon possessed or delusional, sometimes can have the same result: murder. And they might murder you. There are a lot of ritual crimes where people have murdered other humans for sacrifices to a spirit being or to Satan. Famous Serial Killers such as Richard Ramirez (the Night Stalker) and David Berkowitz (the Son of Sam) were devil worshipers and believed their victims were sacrifices to Satan to give them power. There have also been groups of people who plan a murder of an unsuspecting victim such as the drug cartel, Satanic cult in Mexico led by Adolfo Jesus Constanzo in the 1980’s. People who get involved in occult practices often times put their minds into altered states, or are people who are susceptible to strong delusions and become schizophrenic. Often times the occult practices and seances are mixed with drug abuse making it even worse. Hanging out with people regularly involved in occult quests or worshiping of evil entities or philosophies can be hazardous to your health.

6. Do not trust strangers or people you just met. Make sure you do not trust anyone who you have not known a decent amount of time and have not met their social circle or family. Online dating poses a threat so make sure when you meet for the first time it is in a public place and you have friends around. Maybe bring friends to sit at another table who will keep an eye on you. Do not just invite the person over to your apartment when you only have known them for a short while. Often, victims of killers will invite them over to their house within 3 weeks of knowing them. How many dates is that? 3-6 total? How is that enough time to decide to have sex or invite someone to stay over? This is risky behavior and victims tend to be people who do this. Do not be desperate, and take your time in relationships! If you know someone and have never met their family or friends you should not be doing such things yet.
One example: A guy you just met at a bar talks to you for a few hours. Then he asks you to come over to his place, or he could come to yours. He obviously wants to get you alone for sex. Doing this would not be in your best interest because while you may think it’s just going to be a fun time, you do not know him and are putting yourself in a vulnerable situation. Are you really that type of girl? What if his plans are to kill you in a horrible sexual crime? You never know. Also, it is not implausible that sometimes females bait men into becoming their victims or to bring them to another person who wants them to be their victim such as a boyfriend/girlfriend team of killers. Even as a male you might want to take the new friendship/relationship slow before just going somewhere alone with them. Of course guys stand a better chance of fighting an attacker than a lone female victim would.
Another example: a guy rides up on his motorcycle and you are a young female. He starts complimenting you and flirting. You notice his biker vest has the logo of a notorious outlaw biker gang. He asks you to get on the back of his bike for a wild ride and to go party. It is probably best to decline in a polite manner and leave the area. You know he is in a criminal gang which brings criminal activity around them which is negative for you. You don’t know his intentions and the outlaw affiliation is a big red flag that he is dangerous.

Hey girl, you are looking fine. Wanna go for a ride and party?

7. Do not appear to be safe to approach by random strangers. You can avoid being murdered by not overly smiling at strangers or “sharing a moment” with someone you have not talked to with prolonged eye contact. Some crazy people,

A stalker can follow someone around who is ignoring his surroundings by walking and texting then mug him or murder him.

schizophrenics, and other weirdos might make it more than it appears to be. Of course it is necessary to make eye contact as you walk by people for less than a second to show you are aware and confident (which scars away some attackers) but do not go out of your way or be approachable by just anyone. You could have met a new stalker who will harass and follow you forever and murder you later. Do not look distracted by walking and texting or talking on your cellphone. You could be easy to attack.
Also, being easily approachable makes you a target for muggings and rapes. Make sure you show confidence, attitude, and strength, and are aware of your surroundings when walking down the street. Show confidence in the way you walk and carry yourself.

 

8. Know how to fight. Learn martial arts. Knowing how to fight is essential for self protection. If you are aware of your surroundings and become aware that a certain person is about to try and kill you but then you do not know how to fight you are pretty much left with a very low chance for survival. Knowing how to fight will solve the rest of the problem. You must be aware of your environment as well as know how to defend yourself effectively. Learning a serious martial art from a qualified instructor who emphasis self defense is key. You need to take martial arts with the intention of learning how to fight. It is not sport you must train in and it is not just a fitness fad either. MMA is good for sparring practice, but lacks conviction for the perfection of techniques and does not train a self defense mindset. Training in a traditional martial art that teaches hard sparring is a better option. Just avoid mcdojos/mcdojangs and sport oriented gyms. Find someone who will teach you vital striking, joint locks, takedowns, ground defense, and everything else you need to survive a street fight.
        When you know how to fight, if a killer attacks you, you can fight back and deflect their initial attacks. You can disable and even kill them before they have a chance to kill you. If one attacks you and you then end up in a struggle you could get them off of you if they take you to the ground, or deflect a weapon attack and escape, or just strike them in vital areas and beat them into incapacitation or choke them out. Whatever you have to do to live!

9. Be physically fit and healthy. To be a good fighter or to be generally hard to kill you must be in good health and have good fitness. If you can run faster and longer they cannot catch up with you easily. You could run to a safe location such as a store with people who can help you. Or you can fight longer than them and they will get tired before you and you can take advantage of them and turn the tables and make them your victim instead. Also, it takes will power to survive intense situations such as being harmed or hurt and taking the advantage at the right moment through pain and agony to survive and live. What if he is cutting you? What if he is beating you? What if he has trapped you? Being healthy makes you last longer so you can eventually find the moment to escape or kill them. There are various stories where women were in horrible situations in much pain from a killer and they still survived by sheer will and strength. Weaker people would not last.
Along with physical fitness you must be mentally fit as well. A strong mind with an intention and will to survive is a must. Otherwise you may fade out and allow yourself to die. Martial arts are a great way to train your mind to be strong willed. Indomitable spirit!

10. Own a weapon, carry it, and know how to use it. Obviously, a gun is a very effective way to survive a criminal attack. A mugger, burglar, rapist, terrorist what have you, can be killed simply by pointing it at them and pulling the trigger. You must know how to use the gun, respect it, and have skill in aiming it to hit your target. Firearm practice is important. Often times the killers will use a gun to threaten you or just shoot you, but if you shoot them first in the right spot they cannot harm you. Target practice will help you aim for the right spots to neutralize them. If you miss or hit another part of their body that is not vital they can still keep attacking you. Aim to kill. Do not aim to simply injure. 
A knife is also a handy weapon if you know how to use it. If you train to use a knife and have an understanding of a blade you can use a knife to stab and slash an attacker. Just like a firearm you must know how to cut and thrust into vital areas that cause the most pain and damage. The spots that cause death to the attacker are the best. Know which arteries to slash and what pressure points to stab into to stop an attacker. Be fast. Learn a knife martial art style such as Kali. Or train under an instructor who trains to use weapons on top of your hand to hand combat. Know how to keep your knife and not allow it to be turned against you and learn how to turn an enemies knife against himself. Also, know empty hand combat and be skilled at it, do not only rely on a weapon. Learn to improvise weapons as well. Take every day objects and make them become a weapon. Use your observation skills to scan the environment and look for a weapon. Having a weapon is more threatening and more dangerous for an attacker than if they were facing someone with no weapon.

        With common sense it can be easy to avoid being a murder victim. Avoid certain types of people. Sometimes killers can be a mix of the various things mentioned above. There have been literally Satanic, drug dealing, drug abusing, sexually perverted, sadistic, sociopathic, cannibal, criminals such as Adolfo Constanzo who did it all. Then there are others who are one or the other types of things. It does not matter the scale or degree of murder people commit, the fact is they murder period. Avoid such people. Unfortunately, some victims have no choice who they are around since some people have bad parents who either abuse them, or are friends with bad people such as a dad who uses drugs and often brings bad people around his home. These are sad cases and it is hard for such people to get help.

        If a criminal does threaten you, or hold you at gun point or knife point, and commands you to go with them, refuse! Do not go with them! Run away, let them try and shoot you there instead. Usually the killer, if he cannot get you to go with him, will either let you go or run away, or try to attack you to submit you and make you go with him (at which point you can use martial arts techniques to fight). Hopefully he lets you go or runs away and looks for another victim which often happens. Going with them gives him total control over your body and he has you trapped and will take you to a different location, one he is familiar with and can kill you there. He may torture you to death and rape you as well. If he chooses to shoot you right there because you refuse to go with him it is a better death than being taken to a place with no chance of escape and prolonged suffering before death. If you have a gun you can shoot him on the spot before he pulls his trigger! Some killers keep their victims alive for weeks before killing them. Also, if you do get shot or stabbed you might live through it. But I believe you should ALWAYS FIGHT BACK! Be vigilant and vicious! If he will not let you go and wants to kill you then wait for the right moment to attack him first and grab his gun or pull out your own and shoot him. Do anything you can to stop him and escape. Once you feel you are safe continue to run, do not go back to fight him if he is still active. Find help immediately.

        Always be aware of your surroundings and environment. Stay in proper shape, learn to use weapons, learn martial arts. Have total confidence. Do not fear murderers or become paranoid and think a predator is hiding in the bushes and around every corner. Live life, but just use common sense and avoid negative people and if someone communicates to you a threatening thing such as how they dress or facial expression trust your gut instinct and avoid them. Even if they are not actually dangerous people you are still better off not taking your chances. Do not be alone or go to secluded areas without friends, or without telling people where you are going. Do not talk to random strangers or go places with someone you just met. Stay away from drugs, illegal activity and sexual deviancy or one night stands. Hold on to moral values and take things slow. If any person shows signs of aggressive, or violent psychopathic behavior you must purge them from our life as soon as possible. Your life is far more important than political correctness as well. Profiling is necessary in many cases in order to not end up in bad situations. Never go anywhere with anyone you do not know well alone for any reason. Having friends with you helps, but it is also possible a killer could trap and murder multiple people at once so make sure both of you work together to use “street smarts” and common sense. In an active shooter situation make sure you know your escape routes and how to hide, or shoot them first. Make sure all of your friends you hang out with are using common sense as not to attract negative attention. Don’t do stupid things like hitchhiking, or traveling the world alone and staying at seedy hotels for cheap. Research where you are going and know your environment. Avoid fighting or arguments with drunk people or anyone on the streets or in bars. If you are not fighting there is no chance for you to be hurt. If you end up in a fight you then have increased the chances of bodily harm to you and maybe someone in a drunken rage will beat you to death if he gets the upper hand. You never know.

Example of nearly being beaten to death on the streets. Avoid fights.

        The general rule to avoid being a murder victim is to use common sense, be observant of your surroundings, embrace traditional morals, avoid illegal activity, and avoid negative people and be on guard for signs of potential threats in people’s psyche such as sociopathic tendencies and avoid street fights. Learn martial arts and also if you can, learn to use a weapon. The key to not being a murder victim is to avoid attitudes and behaviors that make you a victim. Be logical and rational with street smarts, which is to say use common sense and don’t be naive.

Benson Henderson Earns Even More Of My Respect UFC Fight Night: McGregor VS Siver

        Benson Henderson fought Donald Cerrone at UFC Fight Night tonight. Watchng the fight it is obvious Benson Henderson won the fight all 3 rounds. Cerrone even acted as if he lost, you could see it in his face. When the judges scores were announced it was shocking, all 3 said Donald Cerrone won. I thought this has to be a mistake! Henderson’s face was in shock. I was extremely mad. Benson Henderson got screwed!

        When Joe Rogan went to interview him you could see Benson Henderson was extremely pissed off that he got screwed out of a win. Yet, Henderson made no excuses and simply stated, “I can do all things through CHRIST! who strengthens me.” Henderson really has true faith and will not let a stupid judgment ruin him as a man. He said he will not let it defeat him or keep him from getting better. He was full of righteous anger and asked Dana White to get him a fight even next weekend because he doesn’t care.

        A lot of fighters would be so full of hate and rage they would cuss up a storm and inslt people. Benson Henderson is a fighter with a lot of class. And Taekwondo skills. He used plenty of front leg sidekicks to the lower thigh in this fight that not only kept distance but also did some damage. He at one point throw an axe kick. It was a great fight, one that he truly won.